Accessing my personality

Portrait of an INFJ - Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging
(Introverted Intuition with Extraverted Feeling)

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The Protector

As an INFJ, your primary mode of living is focused internally, where you take things in primarily via intuition. Your secondary mode is external, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit with your personal value system.

INFJs are gentle, caring, complex and highly intuitive individuals. Artistic and creative, they live in a world of hidden meanings and possibilities. Only one percent of the population has an INFJ Personality Type, making it the most rare of all the types.

INFJs place great importance on havings things orderly and systematic in their outer world. They put a lot of energy into identifying the best system for getting things done, and constantly define and re-define the priorities in their lives. On the other hand, INFJs operate within themselves on an intuitive basis which is entirely spontaneous. They know things intuitively, without being able to pinpoint why, and without detailed knowledge of the subject at hand. They are usually right, and they usually know it. Consequently, INFJs put a tremendous amount of faith into their instincts and intuitions. This is something of a conflict between the inner and outer worlds, and may result in the INFJ not being as organized as other Judging types tend to be. Or we may see some signs of disarray in an otherwise orderly tendency, such as a consistently messy desk.

INFJs have uncanny insight into people and situations. They get "feelings" about things and intuitively understand them. As an extreme example, some INFJs report experiences of a psychic nature, such as getting strong feelings about there being a problem with a loved one, and discovering later that they were in a car accident. This is the sort of thing that other types may scorn and scoff at, and the INFJ themself does not really understand their intuition at a level which can be verbalized. Consequently, most INFJs are protective of their inner selves, sharing only what they choose to share when they choose to share it. They are deep, complex individuals, who are quite private and typically difficult to understand. INFJs hold back part of themselves, and can be secretive.

But the INFJ is as genuinely warm as they are complex. INFJs hold a special place in the heart of people who they are close to, who are able to see their special gifts and depth of caring. INFJs are concerned for people's feelings, and try to be gentle to avoid hurting anyone. They are very sensitive to conflict, and cannot tolerate it very well. Situations which are charged with conflict may drive the normally peaceful INFJ into a state of agitation or charged anger. They may tend to internalize conflict into their bodies, and experience health problems when under a lot of stress.

Because the INFJ has such strong intuitive capabilities, they trust their own instincts above all else. This may result in an INFJ stubborness and tendency to ignore other people's opinions. They believe that they're right. On the other hand, INFJ is a perfectionist who doubts that they are living up to their full potential. INFJs are rarely at complete peace with themselves - there's always something else they should be doing to improve themselves and the world around them. They believe in constant growth, and don't often take time to revel in their accomplishments. They have strong value systems, and need to live their lives in accordance with what they feel is right. In deference to the Feeling aspect of their personalities, INFJs are in some ways gentle and easy going. Conversely, they have very high expectations of themselves, and frequently of their families. They don't believe in compromising their ideals.

INFJ is a natural nurturer; patient, devoted and protective. They make loving parents and usually have strong bonds with their offspring. They have high expectations of their children, and push them to be the best that they can be. This can sometimes manifest itself in the INFJ being hard-nosed and stubborn. But generally, children of an INFJ get devoted and sincere parental guidance, combined with deep caring.

In the workplace, the INFJ usually shows up in areas where they can be creative and somewhat independent. They have a natural affinity for art, and many excel in the sciences, where they make use of their intuition. INFJs can also be found in service-oriented professions. They are not good at dealing with minutia or very detailed tasks. The INFJ will either avoid such things, or else go to the other extreme and become enveloped in the details to the extent that they can no longer see the big picture. An INFJ who has gone the route of becoming meticulous about details may be highly critical of other individuals who are not.

The INFJ individual is gifted in ways that other types are not. Life is not necessarily easy for the INFJ, but they are capable of great depth of feeling and personal achievement.

Jungian functional preference ordering:

Dominant: Introverted Intuition
Auxilliary: Extraverted Feeling
Tertiary: Introverted Thinking
Inferior: Extraverted Sensing


INFJ Relationships
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INFJs are warm and affirming people who are usually also deep and complex. They're likely to seek out and promote relationships that are intense and meaningful. They tend to be perfectionists, and are always striving for the Ultimate Relationship. For the most part, this is a positive feature, but sometimes works against the INFJ if they fall into the habit of moving from relationship to relationship, always in search of a more perfect partner. In general, the INFJ is a deeply warm and caring person who is highly invested in the health of their close relationships, and puts forth a lot of effort to make them positive. They are valued by those close to them for these special qualities. They seek long-term, lifelong relationships, although they don't always find them.



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INFJ Strengths
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Warm and affirming by nature
Dedicated to achieving the ultimate relationship
Sensitive and concerned for others' feelings
Usually have good communication skills, especially written
Take their commitments very seriously, and seek lifelong relationships
Have very high expectations for themselves and others (both a strength and weakness)
Good listeners
Are able to move on after a relationship has ended (once they're sure it's over)


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INFJ Weaknesses
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Tendency to hold back part of themselves
Not good with money or practical day-to-day life necessities
Extreme dislike of conflict and criticism
Have very high expectations for themselves and others (both a strength and weakness)
Have difficulty leaving a bad relationship


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INFJs as Lovers
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"To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive - to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before." -- Rollo May


INFJs are warm, considerate partners who feel great depth of love for their partners. They enjoy showing this love, and want to receive affirmation back from their mates.

They are perfectionists, constantly striving to achieve the Perfect Relationship. This can sometimes be frustrating to their mates, who may feel put upon by the INFJs demanding perfectionism. However, it may also be greatly appreciated, because it indicates a sincere commitment to the relationship, and a depth of caring which is not usually present in other types.

Sexually, INFJs view intimacy as a nearly spiritual experience. They embrace the opportunity to bond heart and soul with their mates. As service-oriented individuals, it's very important to them that their mates are happy. Intimacy is an opportunity for the INFJ to selflessly give their love, and experience it in a tangible way.



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INFJs as Parents
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"You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth...
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable." -- Kahlil Gibran

INFJs usually make warm and caring parents. Their goal is to help their children become adults who know the difference between right and wrong, and who are independent, growth-oriented individuals.

Along the path to that goal they are generally very warm and caring, and are likely to treat their children as individuals who have a voice in family decisions. They want their children to be able to think for themselves, and make the right decisions. They also can be quite demanding on their children, and may have very high expectations for their behavior. Although they are generally soft-spoken and gentle, they may become stubborn and sharp-tongued at times when their expectations aren't met, or when under a lot of stress.

INFJs take their parenting role with ultimate seriousness. They will make sacrifices for the sake of their children without a second thought, and without remorse. Passing on their values to their children is a serious priority in their lives. Children of INFJs remember their parents fondly as warm, patient, and inspirational.



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INFJs as Friends
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Although the INFJ is likely to put friends behind their God and their families in terms of importance, they do value their friendships. As idealists who have strong value systems, INFJs seek authenticity and depth in their close relationships, and especially value people who can see and appreciate the INFJ for who they are and what they stand for.

The INFJ is likely to spend a lot of time socialing with family members. If they are religious, they probably are social with members of their religious community. After that, the INFJ may have friends represented from any of the personality types. They are usually extremely intuitive individuals, who will have no patience for anyone they feel is dishonest or corrupt. They'll have no interest in being around these kinds of people.

All kinds of people are drawn towards the INFJ. They are usually quite popular, although they may be unaware of it themselves, because they don't place a lot of importance on it.

The INFJ is valued by their close friends for their warmth and consideration, their new and interesting ways of looking at things, and for their ability to inspire and motivate others to be the best that they can be. genuine article that they are.

Strike a match, light the sun. Watch the preview, life's a game.

I thought i'd flop into bed and hit slumberland like lightning breaks that reach the earth, especially after such a long day.

Apparently not. And we all wonder why.

The point being, I'm not able to sleep till the break of dawn. Till then, it'd be a good time to take Niko for a stroll as the sun creeps up. Take a pitstop at the park and indulge in the serenity of the entire ceremony that never fails to brighten up our days.

I'm not living life the way i thought i should be. Whatever happened to 'seriously, Fuck Love', i don't know either. Only because I've given up, or because i never knew what it really was, or i keep thinking love's not for me. I'd say, probably all of the above. It's not worth anything.

I wanted to wish you well, but after second thoughts, I realised i would've needed the well-wishing far more than you ever needed. Thus, it would've been a total suppression of your abilities if i wished you well - the fact that i knew you would be at your best, unaffected. So, i bidded my farewell and left.

;cheeeseballz. dang, i hate myself sometimes, most of the time.

pfft

blistering barnacles and pieces of blinking ninihammers. cheeseballsless dimwits.

on a brighter note, golfed 200 balls at the range today. blistered the finger that spells f*ck. probably a sign that i've been using it a lil' too often than i should've. :D tell me my blog is oh-so-boring. i need a life. screw it.

why don't people just fuck themselves.seriously. sheesh

the people/things i'll never get tired of!

the blink of an eye :)

The weeekend's gone again. Not going into the nitty critty details of every minute like any other blog out there.

My weekend was fantastic. Here's the catch - my weekends are always fantastic. But when i think this weekend was wonderful, the next one's always better. I'm starting to wonder if it'll ever end. And i reckon not.

All happened only because the loved one never left my side. Evidently, he made it fantabulously enjoyable. Hugs! And with all my love, thank you dearie! <3 !






;like a ticket to the moon and back. that's you baby.

determined.

And i AM going to work my ass off.

cheers to success people. :)

decision.

I'm not trying to be another angsty little pimply teen out there.

but seriously, Fuck Love.

It ends tonight.

Your subtleties,
They strangle me,
I can't explain myself at all.
And all that wants
And all that needs
All I don't want to need at all.

The walls start breathing
My minds unweaving
Maybe it's best you leave me alone.
A weight is lifted
On this evening
I give the final blow.

When darkness turns to light,
It ends tonight
It ends tonight.

A falling star
Least I fall alone.
I can't explain what you can't explain.
Your finding things that you didn't know
I look at you with such disdain

The walls start breathing
My minds unweaving
Maybe it's best you leave me alone.
A weight is lifted
On this evening
I give the final blow.


When darkness turns to light
It ends tonight,
It ends tonight.
Just a little insight will make this right
It's too late to fight
It ends tonight,
It ends tonight.

Now I'm on my own side
It's better than being on your side
It's my fault when your blind
It's better that I see it through your eyes

All these thoughts locked inside
Now you're the first to know


pay-back time, fuckers.

vindicated.

and everynight when i lie in bed
tell myself you ain't worth all this
you don't know.
but the tears trickle freely
that familiar warmth on my face
you don't know.
thought it wouldn't be a nightmare
but it seems to turn out the worst
you don't know.
thoughts of packing my bags
thoughts of packing up the dreams
you don't know.
tell me you don't need me anymore
i can't imagine fucking another
you don't know.

;but i'll be fine by myself.i guess.

Pursuit of Happyness... not happiness.

If someone (probably a guy) ever got you wondering how brainlessly insensitive they can get, my advice would be, don't bother wondering - cos it'll never end.

And if you think you can find someone more sensitive than the current lover, my advice would be, happy searching - cos a pussy would probably be much better of.

Bottomline is: go ahead and BE happy. If you need a sensitive person around you, that's because you NEED something FROM THEM. Cut that out. Live your life the way you want, do what you want, be the person you ARE. Unless you retort that you ARE an emotionally needy person. Then I'm sorry this isn't for you cos you will suffer from a tragic lack of whatever-it-is.

nutshell- probably the only sensitive part of them is their f*cking dickheads, of which, sadly, is the the only head they think their brain is situated at.

;and now you got your answer to why sometimes players get the girls all the time.and girls are still crying over them despite their infidelities and still hang onto the 'relationship'.the amazing element of sensitivity is the answer.

.Impermanence.
every breath is different
but each one keeps
you alive

the sun slides across the sky
the same way everyday
but the clouds
shuffle its rays
infinitesimally

kites are flown in the wind
by different people
but the breeze
points every possible way
imaginable.

they all take a different journey
and of which, rather often
when handled by most amateurs,
our kites never return.

Question of the century...

I wait for you OR you wait for me.


Differs in scenarios, but still... ... its either or.

And its pretty fucked methinks.

一个人生活 - 林凡

叶子在窗外轻轻摇动
人行道没有行人走过
镜子里的我很不像我
自从你离开了我变得很软弱
你的影子在每一个角落
好像是在提醒着我
少了你的陪伴我现在有多寂寞

我想我可以习惯一个人生活
我想我可以假装不曾爱过
冰凉的夜里让眼泪温热我
感觉如果要走谁能说 no

我想我可以习惯一个人生活
在记忆里面擦去你的承诺
爱情怎么会是这个结果
爱情是个梦而我睡过头

;爱情是个梦而我睡过头